This week, three single guys talk about dating in recovery. Mark talks with Joe, Aaron, and Chris about their experience, strength, and hope regarding dating in recovery.
Joe started by sharing that he was in relationship when he first came into the program. Initially, the fact that Joe was sober helped their relationship. Unlike other women that Joe had dated before recovery, this woman didn't drink much. After about a year of being sober, they decided to part ways. One of the reasons was that the fellowship took a lot of Joe's attention.
Aaron came into the fellowship "single" and was terrified of the thought of dating in sobriety. The main reason for this fear was that Aaron thought that everybody drank and he just didn't want to be around drinking people early on. After a little bit of time, Aaron realized that most people don't drink like he used to. The first person he dated was not in the fellowship and was a very light drinker. Aaron didn't think it to be appropriate or "ethical" to date new people in the fellowship.
When Chris came into the program, Chris was married. Initially, the program helped his marriage and she was supportive of his involvement in the fellowship. However, Chris did stay at home with the kids for functions that included drinking when they would have gone as a couple.
Joe along with Aaron shared their reservations of dating people inside the fellowship; mainly because of their observations that it doesn't work very well. Joe shared about fear of dating someone who may relapse during the relationship. The panel also shared about the suggested "no relationships for a year" rule.
Alex and Russ called in.
Helen contributed with an email.
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